The Red Flags Checklist: Know What to Watch For

Not every narcissist looks the same. Some are charming. Some are angry. Some hide behind spirituality or success. But they all share patterns—red flags that show up early if you know what to look for.

Behavioral Red Flags

• They talk excessively about themselves and redirect conversations back to their needs
• They lack genuine empathy—they might perform it, but it doesn't feel real
• They need constant admiration and become angry when not receiving it
• They react with rage or coldness when you disagree with them
• They gaslight you—deny things that happened or make you question your memory
• They blame you for their behavior—everything is your fault
• They have intense, unstable relationships that cycle between idealization and devaluation
• They love-bomb early on—overwhelming you with attention and affection
• They isolate you from friends and family
• They criticize you frequently under the guise of "helping you improve"

Trust Your Gut

The most important red flag is your own feeling. If something feels off—if you feel confused, guilty, or doubting yourself frequently—that's your intuition telling you something is wrong.

Listen to it. Always.

Moving Forward

Knowing these red flags isn't about becoming cynical. It's about becoming wise. It's about protecting your peace and choosing people who actually deserve your love.